It's really hard to get it right. We are often told to be assertive and put ourselves out there to get anywhere in this world, and then, J. Allen Boone tells us that talking unwisely and frugally can drain our power away. I often observe this golden teaching, but what's a person to do? I rather be with someone who can gauge & determine the right thing to do to the right person. Talking with moderation & understanding. Especially guys. Talking unnecessary and "wrongfully" will definitely jeopardise the possible good impression.
Learning the art and power of active silence is an art well worth the time it takes to learn it. Have you ever been in a group of people where everyone was just chattering away, trying to be seen and get their point across when the words of one previously silent person left the other speechless? Hilarious! I was told rather often to have provided such surprise. Appalling to some even!
Perhaps our power does leak out when our focus is not where it should be. When we talk wisely and frugally, we don't have much to say, so every word counts. When our silence is confused, self-centered or controlling, we have little to add. When we give our power away by focusing on others, we leak power. This is so much often I observed to be happening.
We can learn ways of participating in silence and ways of being meaningful when we speak. None of us wants to be an "unnecessary noise" and each of us has that potential.
DaRkAnGeL'S WoRdS oF WiSdOm :
"I have learned that the great challenge of life is to decide what's important and to disregard everything else."
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