Marriage / Intimate Relationships

Balance in a marriage or other intimate relationship is never achieve by trying to get the relationship just the way you want it & then keeping it that way you want it & then keeping it that way. According to my understanding, I may be wrong, you tell me. Marriage is a process in which each spouse has the option of participating. When we try to build the relationship to some "finished" state & then keep it static there, we are inviting death into what should be moving, changing process. The only way to keep a process that we truly care about alive is to participate in it. Balance is participation. A good marriage merges participation with forgiveness & caring. Stasis has no place here - be it marriage or an intimate relationship one shares.

Happened to know many who feel trapped within the marriage they once perceived as perfect. But once things get stagnant, the couple start drifting. As time elapsed, no one do anything and things start falling apart and the family unit begin to collapse. This very often results in a breakup. Rather than making progress to correct & rectify, many will just lapse into non-participation.

When we truly participate, approaching the relationship out of our spirituality, we feel love. When we move out of our spirituality, miracles are possible.

DaRkAnGeL'S WoRdS oF WiSdOm :

"It takes a really long time to be really married. One marries many times at many levels within a marriage. If you have more marriages than you have divorces within the marriage, you are lucky."