Blame...

Isn't this the most convenient thing to do when things screwed up, when our life run into disarray? In a world of psychological "reasons" of why this or that happened and why are we the way we are, it is anything but easy not to blame others (any others!) for what is wrong with us or with our life. But ever try stopping to do a self checklist? Never an easy task. Simply because of out pride and ego. But these are also responsible for the flood gates to more problems occurring in anyone's life.

We can spend so many years believing that we never had a chancebecause of the many reasons we provided ourselves with or unfortunate life circumstances that we continually end up blaming someone - anyone, be it parents, loved ones, husband, friends and so on - for our lot in life. We may hold some deep-rooted belief that if we can prove we have been fairly treated, then we are absolved from dealing with others fairly. Each thought or word of blame we think or utter reduces the quantum of "fairness" residing within us. If we are not careful, we may draw upon our fair play pool so much that we have little reserves left. This will also be the time when regret is too late. There may be no or little chance for turning back.

Don't despair! Fair play reservoirs are easily replenished All we have to do is to re-examine our ways, alter our ego and quit blaming others for what is wrong with us or our life and quit feeding our thinking alond these lines. You will be pleasantly surprised by how things start to move and turn better. It's amazing how modeling fair play elicits a like response in others.

DaRkAnGeL'S WoRdS oF WiSdOm :

"Fair play is primarily not blaming others for anything that is wrong with us." Don't complicate. The ability to simplify means to eliminate the unnecessary so that the necessary may speak."