Self-Centeredness

A rather mentally exhausting day. Nonetheless, gym perked me up. Especially the decsion to go for my spinning class and Zumba class consecutively. Looks easy. But, try doing it without stoppage for 2 hours biking at a consistant speed & resistance follow with Zumba. U practically feel your joints at a tearing point & muscles burning through your skin. Haha! Really not for the novice. (tsk tsk)

Well, topic of the blog was impromptu. Decided not to publish yesterday due to personal reason. Apologies from me. Was chatting to a long-time friend of mine who, was having some issues on some relationship of the past. But upon advice (not the 1st time, infact numerous times) , I can feel that it was not heeded. Simply because she can't let go. Or should I say, the vengeful heart of one is at work. It is really sad to know as she is already married with a family. I love her alot & as her friend, I felt helpless. In fact, her self-centeredness & ego has made her suffer, tremendously. I hope if she get to read this, it will make her come to her senses.

When we are self-centered and self seeking, we are so focus on ourselves - and yet so out of touch with ourselves that we have difficulty letting anyone or anything else in & that include your love ones. Our self-centeredness is an invisible wall that keeps us from ourselves even as it keeps others at bay. We become so absorbed in trying to manipulate people & circumstances to get what we need that we would not be able to see what we really need if it hit us over the head.

One cannot get out of self-centeredness through self-will. It just does not work. There are, however, two time-tested ways to deal with self-centeredness. The first is to do things for others, to be of service. Even if at 1st we may be doing service for ourselves in hope we will feel better & the process eventually will work its magic. The 2nd is to return to that force of power that is greater than ourselves and hand our will and our lives over it - and wait. It sure doesn't sound easy. But we have to try it - for our own sake & for the sake of those who loves us. Self-centeredness is deadly to ourselves & indirectly affecting our loved ones. Take heed. It's definitely not worth it.

DaRkAnGeL's WoRdS oF WiSdOm :

"Selfishness is not living as one wishes to live, it is asking others to live as one wishes to live. One's life has value so long as one attributes value to the life of others, by means of love, friendship, indignation and compassion."