A most draining & energy-depleting day, both mentally & physically. A 2 hr gym session seemed great. But my mind was whirling madly on the questions posed to me & amidst my own emotional turmoil, while pounding myself silly on the treadmill for a solid hour. Again, the infamous topic of the day - never fail to wreaked havoc to my overheated mind.
Modern society has developed a cultural need to be filled up. We are so afraid of any emptiness that we feel inside that any awareness of this void sends us scurrying to fill it up ... with anything - just fill it up. Yet there is no way we can experience balance in our lives with constant and continued fullness. Somewhere down the road, discontentment sets in & changes the direction of the path we are on.
Getting the 1st hand understanding from a gal friend of mine that she had most readily agreed to marriage but regreting it almost immediately. Reason - she has changed. But responsibilities has already came crashing down. That will caused more debris if she back off. But she won't take heed. She says she only has one shot to happiness, and this has to be it. As she is feeling so empty inside, she simply can't go on with a normal life. Similarly, another comes pouring to me the reason she wants to move on to someone else because she can't accept the emptiness within her when she parted her ways with her husband of many years.
It is of utmost importance for us to learn, to be aware of & to value our places of emptiness. It is normal & enriching to feel an emptiness & loss when a relationship ends. Taking the time to experience the void, the loneliness when a relationship ends. Taking time to experience the void & the loss, no matter how long, will more than pay off in the years to come. When we accept the balancing of emptiness in our lives, we begin to have a better knowing of the Is.
It will be a wonderful concept to grasp onto - letting go & holding on. We so often distort ourselves completely out of balance when by trying to hold onto something or someone that needs to go or already gone - a job, a thing, a person , a life. Expecting everything will last forever is one of the more dangerous things we do to ourselves. We can shift our perspective. We can be grateful for the experience & time we had & let go of the person or thing. Crazy as one may think, celebrate the pleasure. Celebrate the sharing & the love. And then accept the loss & let go if there's no more grounds of possibilty. As I kept telling everyone who's experiencing conflicts from the affairs of the heart, everyday many people fall in love & many more fell out of it. In the process, we may shift our perceptions & our expectations.
Brace on my dear friends. Life will get better.
DaRkAnGeL'S WoRdS oF WiSdOm :
"Losing is the price we pay for living. It is also the source of much of our growth & gain. It is difficult to define grief as joy. Each is finite. Each will fade."
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