Endings... that's The Start Of Beginning, The Next Chapter of Life.

Endings are one of the areas in which we lose our balance the most. As busy people, all too often we don't want to take the time necessary to deal with endings. We prefer to create a crisis, generate emotion overflow with adrenaline & storm out believing that we have constructed an ending. All too often though we have created a scene, not an ending. The ending process retreats beneath our consciousness, where it swirls around, affecting us more than we care to admit.

We had best learn to deal with endings, because our lives are make up of beginnings, endings & time in transition. Relationship end. We may continue in a new relationship with that same person or even a past relationship may rekindle into another relationship of a higher level with a better understanding. (If you are fortunate enough) But in order to do that, we must deal with the ending of the old relationship.

To be frank, I am never a person who believes in going backwards in relationships. To me relationships can't be dealt retrospectively. People move on. But in reality, I have seen enough, including my own clients, having separated & got back again. It's definitely not easy & I don't think I have the dare to assume such task. Nonetheless, reconciliations happened all around us. Maybe to many of our friends too. So, it needs not a miracle for such happenings.

There was this night I was chatting with a close friend of mine. That is also the time I confided about a past relationship I had when I was just a teenager (18yrs old). I was so sure that I had found my "Prince Charming" & he will definitely be the one I will spend the rest of my life with. We shared a wonderful 17 months together. But unfortunately, he lost his life in a terrible accident. My world collapsed. I was devastated. Life was never the same again. I retreated to my silent world. It took a long time for me to recover my poise. It was this experience that taught me to view life in a very authentic manner. Learning to detach is indeed a very painful lesson. But good enough, I have to only learn it once. And that's more than a handful.

Now, coming to this age, I can look backwards & have a better grasp & control with my emotions & relationships. Yes, there is the pain & melancholy. You can have a good cry & move on. If the appreciation & value isn't there, what more can you do. So, if you think you are unfortunate to lose this so-called perfect relationship of yours, learn to embrace it & look forward to a transformation. It may be an enjoyable journey after all. It is only in acknowledging, accepting & working through the change process that we are ready to welcome the new (& the old aspects of the old)

DaRkAnGeL's WoRdS oF WiSdOm :

"The adventure is over. Everything gets over, and nothing is ever enough. Except the part you carry with you. May the great mystery make sunrise in your heart."