Day in day out, we get to hear from others around us - criticisms for ourselves or for others. But be it we are able to deal with them is another question altogether. With that, doubts and uncertainties begin to creep in to our being, taking over our senses and will-power sometimes.
There aren't many of us who have really mastered the difference between accepting and checking out criticism and doubting ourselves. Doubting or not doubting ourselves is much deeper than accepting criticism. In fact, it is only when we have a deep, abiding relationship with ourselves - that trusts that we can take in, check out, handle and clearly accept or reject criticism - that we come not to doubt ourselves. When we are defensive, we clearly don't trust ourselves enough to examine criticism, sorting it out, keeping what is useful and tossing the rest. It helps a great deal to know that we have some sort of Higher Power we can ultimately turn the issue over to after we have done our part.
Ever ask yourself? What do you do with criticism? When you get into a cycle of self-doubt, trying stepping back, being open to any truth in the criticism, checking it out, taking what is useful and pitching the rest, knowing that you have done what you can.
As we go through this process, we learn to trust ourselves. Berating and beating ourselves up is only self-centered self-indulgence. Who needs it? When we learn to have confidence in ourselves and our abilities, we can leave the outcome to the powers that be.
DaRkAnGeL'S WoRdS oF Wisdom :
"One thing I never do is doubt myself ... I don't beat myself up like that. I have confidence in myself and my ability. Whatever happens is the Lord's will."
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