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Kindness...

Sometimes it seems as if our world is becoming more and more abstract and in the process less and less intimate. City living and impersonal suburban homes make it easy to have an abstract concept of being a loving person without having to test that the hypothesis outside a very close circle of family and friends.

Kindness is the heart stretching itself and opening up clogged arteries before they know they have a problem. Kindness is the simple, unnoticed act of being present to the context of our daily lives. Kindness is the letting go of fixed societal procedures to reach across the chasm of isolation and touch another being. Kindness is a stretching, a movement, a touching that is more felt than thought.

For me, friends are just like my daily dosage of steroids. Someone I can put my practice of random kindness to use.They perk me up and sometimes alter my day so drastically that I really feel thankful that they are there for me despite of me sometimes behaving cold and withdrawn. Regardless of rain or shine, they will sure provide me with something to laugh at or a distraction to wind down. So, constantly, I reminded myself to be kind and loving, especially to my love ones and friends who have provided me much care and attention.

Our practice of kindness shows us a self that we can come to like and even love. We are all capable of kindness.

DaRkAnGeL’s WoRdS oF WiSdOm :

“We may have achieved much through all years of learning and the pursuit of wisdom. But, without a doubt, only the heart knows how to find what is precious.”

Coming Unglued...

Much about that being understood? Not really. As we often ask ourselves - when then can we see stability? Our inner beings seem to abhor the static. Just when we think we finally have it all together and we can coast for a while, we get hit with a new kind of curveball and suddenly everything that looked like it was together is up in the air again.   

Don't give up! Even though we may viewed being unglued as some kind of failure (a failure to be perfect, that is!), it's anything but. It's just our inner being's way of telling us that we have reached a place of awareness and strength that we are ready to move to a new level in our growth and development. Just to recall, chatting with my gal friend, who mentioned that she wants to attain another level of spiritual strength. This might just be it. Our inner being is the best beacon to the gateway of well-being. 

Stasis is not a normal state for the human organism, even though we would like it to be. There couldn't be any denail in this. We may get little periods in which we can rest and catch our breath and life is an ever-moving, ever-growing process. We find that when we don't fight life and join in and participate in it, life is easier. "Losing it" may just be the next step. That may be your real winning point.

DaRkAnGeL's WoRdS oF WisDoM : 

"When you are creating a visual memoir, just like what I am doing, through your surroundings, it's a never ending story. You don't have to stop. What's more, you really can't. You will always be revealing a new aspect of your personality as you discover it. You will constantly be editing, weeding out what you outgrow, making both subtle and significant decorating changes as the chapters of your life unfold and allow for or demand, rewrites."   

A Really Crazy Day!

Can't do much for blog today. Mind so congested with work and papers. Struggling process at the optimum. Deadlines and perfection. What more to be expected? With my wrist injury, writers' block and fatigue mind, so dear readers, I will make it short.  

Have been toggling with my clients as well as my set of problems and needs. The constant complain of insufficiency & unfairness. The incessant list of fulfillments. I kept telling myself that all are just work. Do my best and let it be. Just as what Alexander The Great says to his followers, "I come with nothing and therefore I will leave this world the same."  What more can I do?

To many may be important, but material possessions will rust away, wear and tear or depreciate. But your inner resources, character and morality must never depreciate. In the process of seeking success, you must also seek sincere fulfillment. Ask yourself, it is not only what you want to be. Without a doubt, God gives opportunities to all who strive for them; success depends not only with material achievements but also very much upon the use made of them.

DaRkAnGeL's WoRdS oF WiSdOm :

"I strongly believe  very much that one half of the world cannot fathom the pleasures of the other. What's new?"

A New Day... A New Beginning.

Am I longing for not just a new day, but a better one. But what is to be regarded as better? Everyday I was telling myself before I set out to work, before I step out of the house. "Today is a new day. Without a doubt you will get out of it. If you have made mistakes, even serious ones, there is always another chance for you. And supposing you have tried and failed again and again, you may have a fresh start any moment you choose, for this thing that we called "failure" is not the falling down, but the staying down." 

Just minutes ago, I was still observing this mantra, holding dear to positive changes. Still I am keeping this. But, I know I will soon be challenged again. I was often told. I am an inspirational writer, a self help believer. Thus, I should be positive, mentally strong and allow no failures or disappointments to cast a shadow on me. I am still trying, very hard. 

With this, I hope all who are going through tough times and all those who knows me personally, get to have a little glimpse to my world. It's not all sunny and bright always. Of course that does not mean we should stop our pursuance. We are all looking forward to a new day, a day of new changes. How exciting it is to approach each day as a new day, which of course,it is. There is something about the freshness in the idea of a new day that encourages us to shake the dust off our sandals and give life a new try.

We can begin again each day. Each new day brings with it the opportunity to come up with fresh ideas, fresh approaches and fresh behaviours. This doesn't mean that we ignore the past or pretend that we do not have to deal with it. We do. And when we approach each morning as a new day with new possibilities, our lives beckons us. And with that,  life seems kinder and easier too. Ty it. Greet each day as a new day rich with possibilities and see what happens.     

DaRkAnGeL's WoRdS oF WiSdOm :

"I believe very much, that if things are not going well with you, begin your effort at correcting the situation by carefully examining the service you are rendering and especially the spirit in which you are rendering it."

Wounds – Courage

Very few, if any, of us do not carry around wounds and experiences of the past. Be it a loss of a love one or a relationship The wounds and experiences may have caused great pain and misery. But all will healed in time and we will be wiser and stronger as all these are the learning opportunities of our lives. Frequently, we want to romanticize wounds, indulging in the belief that some wounds cannot be healed. This is just not true. All wounds, no matter how painful, how much you felt betrayed, can be healed. We have only to be willing to go through the deep process of healing, no matter what had happened, no matter what is required.

The lovely thing about our inner being is that we have to reach a certain level of maturity, strength and awareness before it will bring up these old wounds, experiences and memories. The very fact that they are coming up is an indicator of how far we have come. Maybe it still hurts alot. But you will experience better peace and will eventually manage to arrest the absence due to the loss.

Only one caution – never, never try to force (or let someone else force) your old pain to come up. Deal with it as it comes up. In the process of life and make sure you have a safe, supportive, non-interfering environment in which to go through it. We all are sentimental, emotional beings. To live with wounds, pain and emotional experiences is part and parcel of life. The strength we acquired will carry on with us for a long way throughout our journey.

DaRkAnGeL's WoRdS oF WiSdOm :

"No way anyone's life is perfect throughout. Everyone has a turn in making mistakes. Everyone is a learner. And I am learning everyday. Life wouldn't be any fun if it didn't have it's ups and downs. Success covers a multitude of blunders..." 

Moods...

Today is real a challenging day for me. Was really moody. With my colleague haunting me trying to apologized for losing my cheque book and all the mistakes he did, I almost lose it by yelling at him. But I managed to resist dumping my moods full force on him and people around me. Well, at least I didn't let it last. Most of us don't think of ourselves as being moody and yet almost all of us, unless we are completely out of touch with ourselves, do have moods. For me, really bad ones. But with God's grace & my sheer determination, all seemed to have simmered down quite a bit (I hope)

It's not that moods are wrong. They just simply are. They are as much a part of us as anything else. We certainly don't have to get rid of them, though we do need to learn how to live with them and control them well and maybe even learn how to recognized what they are meant to teach us.

As we learn to recognize our moods, we can get friendly and in control with them. They are just moods after all and who don't have any. Sometimes, for seemingly no good reason, we just start feeling grinchy and a little mean (think I am guilty of it). We need to honor and respect these times. A bad mood may be the opening into an important awareness that is ready to come up for our learning. It could be our authentic self trying to make sense of changes and growth we are going through. Of course, it helps alot more if our loved ones are there to understand and be patient with us. Nonetheless, we shouldn't be complacent and take everyone for granted. We won't know when is the last straw for the matter.

Most of all, we need to refrain from dumping our moods on those we love. They'll only be hurt and we'll end up feeling real bad for what we did and about ourselves. Once we learn to see our moods and honor them (not deny them), we are able to warn others of thunderclouds on the horizon and clearly  let them know that the mood has nothing to do or concern them. We can assure them that whatever it is, it is something bubbling up that we have the opportunity to learn from. By honoring and respecting our moods in this way, we can bring balance to our situation. This doesn't seem so much an undaunting task. I am still learning and guess it's not so far it's been progressing.

DaRkAnGeL's WoRdS oF WiSdOm :

"To my understanding, spirituality, as the ancients reiterated repeatedly, involves a continual falling down and getting back up again."

December...

Ah... finally, it's the last month of the year - December. It was a pretty good year to me, especially as the last quarter of the year approaches near. New job scopes, new aspiration, new friends and new achievements and definitely new commitments. Glad to see all my loved ones and friends happy and had a relatively good year. For those who are going through challenges, hopefully the year will end on a better note.

December's gifts - custom, ceremony, celebration, consecration - come to us all wrapped up, not in pretty gift wraps and ribbons, but in cherished memories. This is the month of miracles, so despair not if things aren't going well. As said often if the going gets tough, then the tough gets going. The oil that burns for eight days, the royal son born in a stable, the inexplicable return of Light on the longest, darkest night of the year. Where there is Love, there are always miracles. And when there are miracles, there is great joy. 

So, banish hatred and embrace love and joy. We all should weave the one of the most important principle of life - Joy - into our tapestry of contentment. At last, we embrace the miracle of authenticity, changing forever how we view ourselves. Our daily round. Our dreams. Our destinies. Days we once called common, we now call holy and special. Just like all of us. We are the special and blessed ones. We will always be. What else can you expect. We just are.

DaRkAnGeL's WoRdS oF WiSdOm :

"For me to see, time is too slow for those who's having expectations, too swift for those who fear, too long for those who grieve, too short for those who rejoice. But for those who love, time is eternity."     

The Kindness Of Strangers...

The day started without much happenings and I presume the ending will be sharing the same. With the merciless rain, most of us who need to rush from place to place will find this rather hazardous. For me, not too bad as I just have to rushed for one client's appointment and to gym. Nothing seemed amiss until I was approached by this Caucasian who stopped me abruptly and asked me if I am married.I state the fact of not and he proceed to question why then I am donning a wedding band. The fact that my ring is on my right hand and so I told him that wedding bands are supposed to be worn on the left. He then introduced himself and I excused myself stating I am in a rush. Strange day as it seems but it just another harmless encounter with a stranger. 

As I recalled, as stated in the Bible, the angels who intervened in the lives of humans were most often strangers who appeared on the scene just once, gave assistance and then disappeared as mysteriously as they arrived. From all the published firsthand accounts, the standard angelic operating procedure hasn't changed in 5000 years.

From this day forward, start becoming consciously aware of your encounters with strangers. Look for them. Smile. Make eye contact. Strike up a conversation. You never know. Even if it's not an angelic encounter, it may be a Celestine moment. I still remember years ago when in San Francisco I was at the hotel lobby when I bumped into an old lady with her hands full of parcels. I quickly apologised and offer my help to bring her stuffs to the restaurant she is supposed to be for her appointment. She smiled sweetly at me and thanked me instead for my kindness. 

Days passed and on this uneventful day I had a flat tyre and it was pouring out there. With no other alternative, I just sit in my car to wait for the rain to lighten up so that I can change the wretched tyre in my Burberry trench. A car pulled up and a tall gentleman checked out on my trouble. Not only did he helped me with the tyre in his suit and tie, he even offer to provide his tools for the purpose since I did not have any in my car. When done, I went up to him to expressed my appreciation for his help. It was then I realized he has a passenger and bless my soul. The lady sitting in his car was the old lady I helped at the hotel days ago. Unbelievable? Believed it!

Stop the rather self-centered assumption that a little help (though I can't consider mine as little) is too much help to ask for especially for us females. Because we become a burden only when we are overwhelmed by our own hubris and have to rely on others to bear our load as well as their own. Be kind to strangers who you feel relatively alright and you believe they are not meaning any harm to you. Let strangers be kind to you. I am sure most of us can be sensible enough to determine the motive of strangers well enough. Think of it as a positive exchange of comfort and compassion in the circle of life. Remember as St Paul reminds us, "Some have entertained angels unaware." And some of us have encounter them without knowing, sending them away before receiving their blessing. 

DaRkAnGeL's WoRdS oF WiSdOm :

"You will find, as you look back upon your life, that the moments that stand out, the moments when you have really lived, are the moments when you have done and see things in a spirit of love."